How to Say No- With Pizzazz

Continued from our Retreat & Renew Daily Tip.

Sometimes its better to say no than to accept yet another obligation. Here are a few tips for saying no, and sticking to it.

Declining a job offer — Thank them for the offer and for considering you, then say you’ve accepted a different offer (or that your schedule is already full) and that, unfortunately, you have to pass on the opportunity. You can add a personal touch by thanking them for being helpful and mention what it is you love about the organization.

Skipping an event — Be honest and explain that while you like/support the cause, you cannot make it because of other commitments. Thank them for the invitation and wish them the best.

Turning down a date — Honesty and kindness are the keys to turning down a date with grace (and minimal awkwardness). Tell the person you enjoy talking with them and think they’re wonderful, but that you just don’t feel a real spark and want to be honest with them because you respect them. If you’ve already been out, say you had a nice time and wish them luck!

Remember, different people want different things. Respect others and celebrate their happiness, and they’ll return the favor. If you’ve thought it through and your heart just isn’t in it, saying “no” is better than saying “yes”—for everyone.