spa etiquette

Dear Tanya, I’ve been a client of the same L.M.T. for almost a year now. Recently, I’ve found myself attracted to her and I’m interested in pursuing a relationship with her. Any advice on how to proceed?

spa etiquette

A: Your question brings up an important and often sticky ethical dilemma for therapists. Because of the intimate nature of our work, the client-therapist relationship should ideally remain strictly professional. However, should your feelings compel you to move your relationship into the romantic realm, you should be prepared to sacrifice your professional relationship. The National Certification Board of Therapeutic Massage and Bodywork provides therapists with ethical guidelines to ensure the integrity of the profession, one of which is to refrain from initiating or engaging in any sexual activity involving a client. In order to date your therapist, you’ll have to first stop being his/her client. Some industry professionals would even suggest a waiting or transition period (of up to 6 months) before you begin seeing each other socially. Whatever you do, it’s probably better to go ahead and find a new massage therapist. Even if you don’t pursue the romantic relationship, your energy and intention as a client has shifted, and your relationship is no longer purely professional.

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