My kids get up before my alarm goes off. My husband and I are like two ships passing in the night. I eat pretty well and exercise, yet I don’t feel sexy with my man or patient with my kids or simply… enough!
Answer: I hear you wonderful woman. And I also hear that you’re doing your best. Some of our greatest feminine qualities are those of being receptive of the moment, allowing of things not being as we desire and then courageously receiving help… So I celebrate you for reaching out!
Sustainable Intimacy Practice #1:
Getting Intimate with Little You…
First thing in the morning and last thing at night when you are lying in bed, I’d like you to place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly, and breathe. Imagine reaching back into the darkest farthest back chamber of your heart and whispering… “Hey Little You, it’s me. How are you beautiful?”
When we spin in overwhelm, we disconnect from our intuitive knowing. We ignore our instinct. We push from fear. We don’t ask for help and we forget to delegate. We even begin to misunderstand that our worth is based on accomplishment and achievement versus simply being valued for our beautiful existence on the planet.
Begin to cultivate an intimate, honest, vulnerable, real relationship with Little You, honor her needs, never fix or judge her, give her unconditional love and the patience of eternity. Watch how you exhale and become more grounded, open and receptive to a life that nourishes you.
Sustainable Intimacy Practice #2:
Stained glass pedicure party…
You don’t need to stop going to your local nail salon, yet I’d like you to make a date with a girlfriend and bring over 4-5 different colors of nail polish. Each of you wash your feet and clean off your toenails. Then one of you sit down in a comfy chair with a cup of tea or glass of wine… while the other begins painting the others toes with all the different colors creating a stained glass window pattern. There’s no perfect way to do this. Let’s let go of perfection! This is an expression of our perfectly imperfect nature!
Learn to receive and allow. Learn to be nurtured and cared for, to be adored. Engage in meaningful intimate authentic conversation. Share truths. Listen deeply. Don’t fix. Just connect.
Then switch and allow the other to receive, allow and be cared for. Then go pick up the kids or make dinner… yet watch how you are more patient, more radiant, more grateful for the simple things having spent time treating yourself to a dose of nourishing intimacy.
Sustainable Intimacy Practice #3:
Date night in the backyard…
Being too busy is perhaps the main excuse, but not having enough money is another popular reason for not scheduling regular date nights. Plants need watering and relationships need date night. Change things up by having date night at sunset or under the stars on the back deck. Hell, you can even snuggle in the driveway or if it’s cold, in the garage!
Make a simple picnic, and begin by embracing for a full five minutes as you say thank you to each other, going back-and-forth, for every single friggen’ thing you’re grateful for about each other! The small things, the big things, the things that normally go unnoticed that when acknowledged, ignite an intimate spark that fuels the fire of a healthy relationship.
And if you’re a single mom or single woman wanting to be in relationship… Still take yourself out on a date night! Treat yourself like you desire to be treated… cherished, adored, thought about, listened to, treated special. Use part of your date night with Self to work on your online profile, or get clear about your deal breakers with who you are dating, or reach out to a relationship coach like myself to heal the wounds from the past so you can be present and open to healthy love.
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Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt inspires open hearted living, with delicious sass. Featured on CBS, TLC & FOX, this cum laude graduate of Columbia is the Author of 4 books, Coach to celebrities and Host of the sexy empowering Podcast “Intimate Conversations”. Allana helps thousands who struggle with the fear of rejection. She teaches women that their vulnerability is what makes them sexy, and shows men how to cure their ‘nice guy’ and become a noble badass. Allana’s devotion to help her clients create hot, healthy intimate relationships is rooted in her own journey. She endured a brutal custody battle yet emerged more courageous, radiant and loving than ever. Allana’s joy for life is contagious. She savors motherhood and pole dances for pleasure. She inspires her clients to be unapologetically true to themselves, successfully date and find lasting soul-shaking love.