3 Key Questions to Ask — To Heal your Heart

Do you have the case of Deja Vu? Perhaps the same drama keeps turning up in your life. Maybe it is a different job, different relationship or different location but the same problem has reared its ugly head?

If you live in a constant state of Deja Vu, and find yourself repeating the same habits, patterns and mistakes then it is time to switch it up.

Maybe you left a job because you didn’t like it and you were unhappy, and then you took a new job and found the same mean boss is back, or the same condescending coworkers are preset, the problems seem to persist. This is also a common theme in romantic relationships.

A new relationship with a romantic partner may start to feel like you are dating an ex lover. And all those problems you left behind are all of a sudden right in front of you, yet again.

If you are constantly looking to someone or something else to fill you up, you can never get what you need. The patterns will always persist. The opportunity and challenge for us is to turn inward to see the truth.

It’s been said if you ask for something, like “more patients” the universe won’t give you what you ask for but rather it will guide you to situations to practice what it is you need most. It will guide you to situations to practice patience. It will challenge you to practice what it is you want most.

When this happens over and over we start to feel frustrated. Many of us skate through life unaware of the patterns until they become so large that we have to take note. We wonder why we are in the exact same situation we thought we walked away from. If you are tired of the situations repeating themselves and you want new results these tips can help.

Ask What Are My Patterns?

This pattern will continue until we are ready to have a different experience. Our patterns are perpetuations of what we believe. If we believe we are unworthy, then we will continue to meet people and be in relationships that make us feel unworthy. It is only when we recognize the pattern and turn inward and ask what is this situation trying to teach me.

Ask Yourself What Do I Gain?

Sometimes we actually derive satisfaction for proving that we are right, again and again. We could gain a sense of safety each time these patterns happen because we feel as if we have an understanding of how the world works. We feel validated in our sense that the pattern has proved on course again.

Ask What Can I learn Here?

They say relationships are assignments. For me I was guided to the perfect assignment to reveal my deepest secrets and heal the areas that needed the most attention. Look at your own life and see what you can learn from each person. The aspects that challenge you the most can be your greatest opportunity for true healing. Look at life as a game. And see how you are showing up. Just like the game of golf, we must practice patience, consistency, balance and integrity. Looking at life as a sport and how you show up can help you handle the lessons more easily. The owners of Oregon City Golf Club, a place to golf in Portland, believe in the power of persistence in all areas of life.