The Man Who Taught Me How To Change The World By Falling In Love With My Fears


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Life suddenly dealt me an unexpected harsh hand (join the club, I know) and I immediately began to react to it. Mentally, spiritually and physically and all at once!

Strange, uncomfortable tingling sensations coursed through my body. My nerves were like exposed live wires firing alarm after alarm. I couldn’t swallow because I couldn’t make any saliva…my mouth was bone dry. I tried gargling with coconut oil, drinking water every minute, yet no relief came.

Of all of my reactions, the worst, by far, was this looming, dark feeling that I just wanted to die. I didn’t want to be here anymore…

Have you ever felt this way? Or maybe for you it wasn’t so dramatic…maybe you just felt like you were stuck – smack dab in the middle of a cruel joke – something like the scenario around the movie Groundhog Day. You were prisoner in your own head and way worse than just your average rut. Each morning when you opened your eyes, your mind would say sarcastically, “Oh look! Here comes this SAME FEELING AGAIN.” But it actually never left at all.

Yep! This is part of our birthright, our earned inheritance as human beings. In fact, I just read that “we have fears and beliefs clogging us up that have been passed down for generations…maybe even thousands and thousands of years….. Just by the simple act of being with the pain, you are finally allowing centuries of handed-down pain to be released.” Do you feel that? Stop for a second and take a breath, close your eyes and FEEL that idea. Do you feel a pain inside your body somewhere? A pain that may or may not actually belong to you? You’re nodding your head, aren’t you? You can feel it! I can too. So, HUGE bonus for us!

Now what? How are we to “BE” with this pain so it can be released?

With all my pleasure in the world, I humbly introduce you to Kyle Cease and to my favorite analogy EVER: “If Eckhart Tolle and Jim Carrey had a baby, that baby would be Kyle Cease!”

He’s a person, just like you and me. His eyes might be a bit bluer and his abs might be a little more toned and defined, but don’t let that intimidate you as most of what I have to say has to do with how his mind works. His mental physicality.

A quick interjection here. Let me share of my first meeting with Kyle. I can testify to how life-changing his events can be after I went last August to his Evolving Out Loud series. I am a completely different person now. I have wings. Here’s my story on this epic experience:  How a Comedian aka ‘Transformation Doula’ and A Never Lost Soul Worked Magic Together.

Kyle has embarked upon a journey that has provided him – AND LUCKY US! – with an intriguing existential outlook on life with inspiring, and often times refreshingly quirky, methods to support his way of thinking. All the evidence is in his first book, which, when I heard about it, I immediately pre-ordered:  I Hope I Screw This Up:  How Falling in Love with Your Fears Can Change the World.

On my journey to healing, I have shamelessly read everything I can get my hands on. Every. Thing. I have listened to and read works from some of the greatest speakers and thinkers of our time, the likes of Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer, Esther Hicks, Bob Proctor, Louise Hay, Lisa Nichols, Les Brown, Dr. John D. Martini, Mike Dooley, Marianne Williamson, Napoleon Hill, Brian Tracy, Steve Harvey, and the list goes on and on. In my effort to find my emotional ‘cure’ I have become an insatiable sponge but even more, I am a fixer/healer type of person. Some, well many, call me an empath. Recognizing that I needed fixing – I needed something to keep me on this planet, if for anything, for my daughter – I submerged headfirst into the big, murky emotional pool with caution tape sealing the perimeter, wearing my scuba gear, prepared to stay down there as long as it took.

That’s when I first discovered Kyle Cease. Out of all of the ‘stuff’ I have explored, Kyle’s was DIFFERENT. His approach is fresh, sometimes totally off the wall, and completely invigorating! Don’t get me wrong, Kyle hasn’t reinvented the wheel nor has he claimed to have done so. A lot of his concepts can be found amongst much of the wisdom traditions – which to me just shows the validity of a concept.  What makes Kyle’s ‘work’ different is the angle from which he approaches things. See, the guy is a COMEDIAN and an hilarious one at that.  His soul, his essence, his being, his wit are very, very warm and funny… and playful …and contagious. So while you are reading and learning about the many profound and though-provoking concepts in this book, you are also laughing out loud at random nuances and tidbits about cashews and the Roseanne show. 

I will share a granule of excellence, a tasty Kyle nugget which has resonated with me: “Awareness doesn’t take time, it just takes awareness.” Now, ain’t that something?

Since I couldn’t put it down, reading this book in public became a necessity. I would find myself randomly ROTFLMAO more often than not, strangers eyeing me with scrutiny until I’d see the corners of their mouths begin to turn up. Laughter is contagious after all.  My abs got a good workout and I’m thankful for waterproof mascara, which played a pretty big role in helping me survive this book in style. I am also very thankful for my fat, trusty, yellow highlighter, which never wore out even though it colored most of the book.

I strongly encourage you to pay a visit to Kyle’s website and explore. He’s got loads of free videos and content and he’s also got incredible, life-transforming events that you can sign up for like I did – but in the future because the current ones are all sold out!  

You can preorder his new book here: should really go and get it now, before you forget. It will change your life. I’m not even kidding. Go ahead… for I am patient …I’ll wait!

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Rebecca Marie

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