True love is something we all hope to find, yet it’s difficult to describe and define. People typically struggle with being alone. Many of us find that our partners contribute to us feeling love, security, and connection, ultimately freeing us from loneliness. But when we approach relationships with a “fix me” mentality we are separating ourselves from real love. True love is about first falling in love with yourself and understanding there is no one else necessary to offer you a feeling of completeness.
People often strive for a sense of protection and want to be in a relationship to avoid being single. Because there’s nothing worse than being single, right? Wrong. Very wrong. This mindset ultimately leads to bad relationships, fights, low self-esteem, and often divorce. It is important to ask yourself, are you in your relationship for the right reasons?
If you are in a relationship for any of these reasons, you may want to inquire why you’re staying with someone who feels wrong? Do any of the below statements resemble you?
• Because you don’t want to be alone
• Because you see their potential, not who they currently are
• Because they remind you of someone you use to know
• Because you want to be in a couple
• Because all of your friends are getting married
• because you feel like you are missing out
• Because you are terrified of being single
• Because you get bored by yourself
• Because you don’t think anyone better will come along
• Because you don’t trust yourself
• Because your friends and family love them, but you aren’t sure
• Because they support you financially in some way
If you relate to any of the above, then your reasons for staying in a relationship likely stem from fear. Fear will drive you to make choices that go against your true essence if you let it. If you fight with your partner often or ignore your inner voice, then fear is the third wheel in your romance.
To break free from toxic relationships and eventually have the opportunity to find true love, give yourself permission to be yourself. Sometimes we avoid standing up for what we believe in because we are afraid we will lose them. Instead get in touch with your inner self. Start practicing self-love and care as much about how you feel and what you want as you do about your partner’s needs.
Take yourself on a date and become connected to your inner desires. They will lead you to your best self. When you do what you love, and you do it daily you feel more joy. Tapping into that joy can free you from the pain associated with a toxic relationship. The more true love you give to yourself, the more likely it becomes for you to attract the perfect partner.
You will smile more. And people who smile are confident and happy. They’re healthy and it shines from the inside out. Fall deeply, head-over-heels in love with YOU, and watch the world around you wake up and take all kinds of notice.
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